Happy, Healthy and Hot after 50!
Right after my 50th birthday…urrrg!... I made a conscious decision to breakaway from my normal routine (you know, spending too much time with friends or watching movies and not enough with family and my business). I needed to change my attitude and habits. I started eating healthier and I stopped drinking… yep, I did… and I took some very much needed time with my husband.
What I found was that I am a very hot older woman! I guess I always knew I was “cute”, but looking in the mirror everyday seeing those little lines around my eyes and that chunkiness on my thighs I was far from feeling “hot”. My husband is 11 years younger than me and he told me he married a Playboy model. Isn't he awesome? Anyway... He's been on this health kick for awhile,so I started eating right too. Eating the right things at the right time has made a big difference in how I look and feel.
My friends and family have been amazed at my transformation. Even people I have just met ask me how I keep looking young at 50. So I have decided to help my girlfriends, sisters and daughters be the best they can without having to eat wheat germ and Tofu. Yuck! Double yuck! I'm also pretty good at giving relationship and child rearing advice. So bring it on! I'm ready.
I will be as honest as I possibly can, but be aware, if you ask me a question you must be prepared for the answer because I don’t hold back any punches. I believe that life is too short not to have fun and enjoy the ride. So stand on the edge… you’re taking up too much space!
OK… here’s the deal. We all get the same 24 hours in a day.
It’s how you spend those hours in 2010 that will determine whether or not you have a Happy, Healthy and Hot year.
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Tracie Morales(facebook) commented on your link:
ReplyDelete"PLEASE......You need to stop lieing about your age. There is no way you re 50..... YOU NARE THE MOST ADVENTUROUS AND FUNNIEST AND TRUTHFULEST AND NONBULLSHIT PERSON I THINK I HAVE EVER MET,SO CAN YOU PLEASE STOP WITH THIS 50 CRAP? You are Marty, the nice caring most professional and truthful and compassionate etc.... LADY I KNOW......"
Hi Happy Healthy & Hot,
ReplyDeleteI have question. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years. For six months of that, we've been living together. We're grown-ups with enough of life behind us to know what we want from the rest of it. We're in love, compatible, and extremely happy together. Not to say we never have moments of frustration, and the stray medical issue or crappy job situation sometimes dampens the fireworks, but our life together epitomizes everything we've ever wanted in a relationship. I've been thinking I'd like to be with this man for the rest of my life, in that formal, official, traditional way that usually involves a few dozen relatives and friends, cake and quite possibly some dancing. You know, marriage
There's a complicating factor: I'm a relatively recent divorcee from a marriage that was emotionally manipulative, exploitative and draining. About a month ago, my boyfriend started asking questions about my views on and attitudes about marriage, but it didn't lead to anything. I'm concerned that it's because I didn't get my message across that "YES, I AM TOTALLY OK WITH MARRIAGE. I'D SAY YES ENTHUSIASTICALLY!!" But, on me, suppressed anything looks and sounds like a bad case of constipation, even suppressed joy and hope (or hopeful joy?). So maybe he thinks that I'm not ready.
(Note that I've never been awkward or uncomfortable with him about any other topic. It's just that this is so big!)
I don't want to propose to him for a number of reasons. He's younger and less experienced in relationships, so I want to give him the chance to set the pace. I also want to be asked, rather than asking, because I enjoy his knack for romantic gestures. I don't want to ask him his intentions directly because I don't want him to feel the pressured. As for the indirect route, he'd see right through a dropped hint.
Should I just wait it out? Bite the bullet and ask? Do something terribly clever I haven't thought of? Am I misinterpreting the situation? Let me know what you think the best course of action would be for me in this situation. Thanks!
Hi Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteI'm on my 3rd marriage. One thing I found is that you can't rush a guy into getting married. I suggest you bring up the conversation again about marriage. You didn’t give me too much content on what was said, so I have to think either you or him were so nervous about it that it was a very short conversation.
Just say something like this… “Remember the other day when you asked me how I felt about marriage?”
He’ll probably say “yeah”.
Just ask him "why did you ask me that?"
See what he was fishing for. Tell him your last marriage was a lesson and that you would have no doubt that if “IF” we were to get married it would nothing like that one. He may just be afraid that whatever went wrong in your last marriage may keep you from wanting to get married again.
You said that you have never been awkward with him on any other subject so try your best to make this conversation as easy as you can. Treat him as if he was your best friend and she was asking you what you thought about marriage now that been through a bad one. It’s just a conversation. If you can’t get through this one talking about having kids is going real doosy. Spouses may come and go but kids are forever.
Then of course… he may think be thinking that if you two are really happy together why worry about a piece of paper making it legal or binding. A lot of men have “legal” issues with marriage. They just don’t get that a couple of years down the road you can take half of everything he has anyway. Most states have a "common law" rule for when two people have lived together over a certain amount of time that binds them together as if they were married. All property and assets are split equally.… so why worry about the fact she has your name. Be proud that she wants it.
I was so determined not to repeat the same mistakes again, I told my current husband I was never going to get married again. Then a small issue with insurance came up and I told him “Let’s get married so you’ll have insurance. But I’m not changing my name and this paper means nothing!” He agreed, being married once before himself. But love proved us wrong. I could make a marriage work. Third time’s a charm. I finally got it right. Lol Don’t give up on him. Give him time. A couple of years is nothing compared to a life time of love and friendship.