Men are victims too

I was at the car shop today and I realized something pretty profound. Men are victims too. One of the workers came in all beat up and bandaged and the girl behind the desk ran over to give him a hug and said “Oh Honey… I’m so sorry. You really need to get her help. She needs to go to rehab”. After listening to the conversation for a while I found out that his wife ran him over with his truck when she was drunk. They had gotten into a fight and he didn’t want her to leave. This has been going on for years.
When somebody hears about spousal abuse they automatically think it’s a guy doing the abusing. It’s not as common but it does happen that the abuser is a woman. Most men will fight back though and the woman ends up getting hurt too. But this man today… he loves his wife. She doesn’t do this all the time, just once a month or so this happens. When she’s not drinking she’s the best wife anyone could ask for. But then…
I know from firsthand experience that living with someone who drinks is a very scary thing. Alcohol changes people. Not only for the minute but their body chemistry changes forever if they’ve been drinking long term. They’re mind thinks differently after having the same conversations and fights over and over again. “She’s not going to tell me what I can and can’t do...” or “I’m tired of their whining about shit… I need a drink”, or how about… “I work hard; I deserve to have some fun”. Having fun at the expense of others, especially someone you love (or suppose to love) is not fun; it’s hurtful and very painful.
As a victim of alcohol abuse you need to seek help. If the person doing the drinking is not willing to seek help with you then you have to leave, because at some point there is no turning back. You either end up hating them or they hurt you… permanently. You cannot change a person that does not want to change. You can only change yourself.
If you love them, love them enough to help them, but don’t die or scar yourself for someone that doesn’t care enough to get help to stop the hurt and bad behavior. Sleeping with the enemy is not just a movie. It’s real.
If you think you can’t make it on your own, think again. There are many ways to get help. Someone is out there to help you cope with the problem and turn you in the right direction. Luckily for me I wasn’t physically abused. Mine was mental. Which at times are more harmful than physical. You start to believe the shit they tell you when they’re drunk. “You’re a bitch, you can’t make it without me, and you’re fat and worthless”. Kids go through this all the time and everyone wonders why the kids today are so mean and have no manners.

Being Happy Healthy and Hot after 50

Happy, Healthy and Hot after 50!
Right after my 50^th birthday…urrrg!... I made a conscious decision to breakaway from my normal routine (you know, spending too much time with friends or watching movies and not enough with family and my business). I needed to change my attitude and habits. I started eating healthier and I stopped drinking… yep, I did… and I took some very much needed time with  my husband.
What I found was that I am a very hot older woman! I guess I always knew I was “cute”, but looking in the mirror everyday seeing those little lines around my eyes and that chunkiness on my thighs I was far from feeling “hot”. My husband is 11 years younger than me and he told me he married a Playboy model. Isn't he awesome? Anyway... He's been on this health kick for awhile,so I started eating right too. Eating the right things at the right time has made a big difference in how I look and feel.
My friends and family have been amazed at my transformation. Even people I have just met ask me how I keep looking young at 50. So I have decided to help my girlfriends, sisters and daughters be the best they can without having to eat wheat germ and Tofu. Yuck! Double yuck! I'm also pretty good at giving relationship and child rearing advice. So bring it on! I'm ready.
I will be as honest as I possibly can, but be aware, if you ask me a question you must be prepared for the answer because I don’t hold back any punches. I believe that life is too short not to have fun and enjoy the ride. So stand on the edge… you’re taking up too much space!
OK… here’s the deal. We all get the same 24 hours in a day.
It’s how you spend those hours in 2010 that will determine whether or not you have a Happy, Healthy and Hot year.